3 Relaxation Techniques to Keep You Motivated

Staying relaxed and motivated isn't always as easy as you need it to be when you are living a Boss life. Try these 3 simple techniques to keep you the Boss juices flowing.

 

Sometimes we get so wrapped up in deadlines and providing perfectly inspiring content that we become stressed out. Do you ever feel like in those moments you either put out half a$$ work or you get so stuck that you cant get anything finished at all! Eeek! That’s no good. Part of this is because your natural stress instincts kick in. Your body starts reacting the only way it knows how. Your heart rate speeds up, it begins prepping itself to run away. See ya later, deadline. So we have come up with a few things you can try to help you relax, so you can put out your best work.

Deep Breathing

This is a pretty simple concept but the reward is great. While you breathe instinctively throughout the day, there are breathing techniques you can practice to give yourself the extra boost and clear mind when you need to get sh*t done. Using a technique known as “firebreath” can really relax and energize your mind and body. To begin get yourself into a comfortable position giving your belly plenty of room to go in and out. Once you’re comfy, begin panting like a dog. Do this for a moment. Now, close your mouth and start taking quick breathes again but through your nose. Now go back and forth between the two breathing styles. Continue firebreathing until you begin to feel slightly dizzy but still energized and awake. Don’t go any further than this… unless you want to pass out. Which we do not recommend as a good idea. The great thing about practicing this quick breathing technique is that you are doing more than calming your body in that moment, you’re also training your body to be less stressed all around. Overtime you wont have to practice breathing. Your body will naturally remember what to do in stressful situations. So the need to practice breathing or even being stressed will diminish! Woot! There are many other techniques like deep breathing or OM breathing. Pick your fav and give it a go daily.

Progressive Muscle Relaxation

This technique is a bit more difficult to begin. But the physical relief you will fell will relax your mind and you will gain more focus. Begin by lying on your back. Allow your legs and arms to melt to the side of you. Once comfortable tense your body isolating one body part at a time. Tense each part for about 30 seconds. You can begin with your toes and feet and work to your face and head or begin with you head and head down your body. The choice is yours. Some have found it beefical to place a finger on your temple as you go through this process. By doing this you are creating a memory of this technique. The goal being that you will eventually be able to simply place your finger on your temple and instantly feel the release of stress from your body.

Kissing

We know kissing someone special is amazing and hopefully takes us to a hhappy place. But the cool thing is that there is actually some science behind this wonderful feeling that we often crave. Actually kissing someone you care about releases happy happy hormonoes like oxytocin, serotonin, dopamine… You know the chemicals we rush to the gym to for. (So obviously going to the gym would also be another great way to relax and reenergize.) These chemicals all work in our bodies to calm us and give us that loving feelin’ inside. Kissing is also great for the immune system. Many believe that a little smooch boosts our virus fighting defenses. And a little French kissing with honey can fight cavities. The more saliva you get going the better. So call your lover and go at it like teenagers. Fun and healthy? Yes, please!

These are only a few of the many many tricks you can try to reduce your stress and to help you enjoy your life a little bit more. Try one or try them all. It’s up to you… Just try something! You deserve a peaceful happy life.

Make sure to leave us a comment about what technique you tried to help you relax. Can’t wait to hear what kind of fun you had!

Screw Adulting

 
1, 2, 3… Boom. Welcome to adulting. You now have responsibilities, commitments, deadlines and way too much other crap going on. No wonder you’re such a bore! STOOOP! Pump the breaks. Rewind. You, love, are anything but a bore. But maybe, just maybe, you are acting a touch boring… Don’t shoot the messenger.
Look, it happens to the best of us. As we get older more and more crap piles on top of our plates and we keep thinking, If I can just keep my head down a bit longer I can make it out. Only problem is that the light at the end never gets any closer. It keeps getting farther and farther away. WTF!
But guess what, you have the power to make that light shine it’s light on your beautiful face. Beam me up, Scotty, I want a taste of that! That’s what you’re thinking, right? You can admit it. We feel ya.
The secret you ask for is within you and it is super easy to find. All you have to do is STOP. Each day find a moment or several moments to stop and do something unexpected. If your creative juices are clogged by dull adulthood, stop and dance. Break out your most titillating music and bust a move. Have a solo dance party or to really stop the boring you, drag a few friends onto your impromptu dance floor. Not only will you be the life of the dance party, the physical movement will send your juice flowing right.
Perhaps you’re in a poopoo adult funk and seem to be sucking the life out of everything. But wait; is that a sweet child selling cookies? Sure, you could be a bore and say you can’t buy any because it’s swimsuit season and Lord knows you don’t need another calorie… OR you could buy some delicious sweets and chat with the gang of cookie monsters Find out why they’re selling cookies. Kids are always full of hilarious honesty and cheerful giggles. It is hard to be an uptight bore when they are telling you about the adventures their gang encounters. Let the conversation inspire you to enjoy the rest of your day with a smile. Maybe you will allow yourself to find your own little adventure.
Whatever you do to lift the boring fog, the number one way to live a life that is chalk full of fun vibes is to start living! Stop saying you can’t go to the next Harry Styles concert because you’re too old to have a mad crush on the ex-1D stud… Start opening your iPhone to Ticket Master and hit the buy button. Why miss out on something that could be spectacular because you’re too “adult”? A major adulting sinkhole is this idea that growing up means that you now have to conform to social rules. Be funky. Be wacky. Be YOU. No one is going to look back on your life and say how wonderful you were at doing your laundry or marvel about how punctual you were to work. Now, don’t go skipping out on work, you totally need that job to support your new love of adventure. Work to live; don’t live to work. The point is that you only have one shot at this life so do what brings you joy, and when you do that you will no longer be a bore you will be the coolest adult in town.
Whatever your funk may be, it is up to you to get out of it. Sure, you could be the ol’ stick in the mud or you could be the YOLO hustler. It’s up to you. How do you want to live your life?
We want to hear from YOU. What keeps you young at heart? Please share in the comments below. Until next time, mwah!

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Why YOU Need A Brand

 This is how you are going to change your life for good.
Personal branding seems to be a major buzzword at the moment. Everyone is climbing on the personal branding wagon in hopes of claiming instant success. With all these hustlers building inspiring careers it’s easy to get excited and a bit overwhelmed. But there is no reason to be overwhelmed. You are reading this blog so you totally have what it takes to pull it off! So how do you get started, right?! Bet you’re asking yourself, What the heck is a personal brand? Do I need one? And a million other questions are probably running through that head of yours. Honestly, the question you should be asking is, Am I ready to brand my life? But let’s go ahead and walkthrough your questions, shall we…
In 1997 Tom Peters wrote an article for Fast Company where he talked about “The Brand Called You” This was the birth of the personal brand. The entire concept of a personal brand was, and is, to get individuals, YOU, to build a brand that allows them to stand out in a room of cubicles. So, the idea of a personal brand is really simple. Build a brand the same way a company like Apple or Nike would, but this brand isn’t for a company. It’s for your career. In another article for Fast Company, Barry S. Saltzman writes, “It provides a clear focus for personal development while establishing yourself as a thought leader.” You’re building a reputation as a leader or influencer for your niche industry. So by this definition, if you are looking to further your career, land a better job, build a business or really do anything in the “career” sphere, you need a personal brand.
Peters wrote, “Regardless of age, regardless of position, regardless of the business we happen to be in, all of us need to understand the importance of branding. We are CEOs of our own companies: Me Inc.” So it is pretty safe to say that if you are reading this, you need and should have a personal brand. But here’s the thing… Today, we live in the era of the Millennial. Millennials want a connection, honesty and authenticity. They want more than a personal brand showing them how awesome you are at your job. They want to really get to know you. To understand why you are so brilliant. They also want the good stuff and the bad. They want it all. They want the WHOLE picture. This is where that question of Am I ready to brand my life? comes in.
Say hello to the new face of personal branding, Life Branding. Life branding is just like a personal brand. You are branding ME Inc. BUT instead of simply branding your professional image you are branding the whole shebang. You are branding your career, your relationships, your style, your health, your home. EVERYTHING! In 2008 Merrill Lynch estimated that in 2020 about 46% of the workforce will consist of Millennials. So it is safe to say that whatever age group you are, you will be working with or for one. Or Are One!
So it is time we start thinking about what that means for the current mainstream idea of a personal brand. We have to be more open and authentic to who we are and what our values are. Companies are getting to a point where they care less about what a piece of paper says about your job history and more about who you are as a person. They want to be sure that your values match their values and ideals.
Just look at what companies are doing today. They are taking down store walls, so to speak, and giving you an inside look into the life and heart of the company. They are showing it all. The processes they use, what their HQ looks like, inside looks into their employees. Anymore, you really have an incredible opportunity to dig into a company brand and get connected. So why aren’t we doing more of that? It is really jiving for the big companies like 86 Lumber or Facebook.
So to grab that instant success you have to start thinking outside the box of personal branding. Expand your limits and brand your entire life. Start by creating a brand strategy. Really dig deep into what is most important to you and how you live your life, now and in the future. We will really dive into creating a brand strategy later on but basically you need to create a guide book of how the brand of YOU is going to look and feel. Really think about how you want others to see you as a human and as a professional. Just be sure you are staying true to YOU. No one likes a phony. The process to building your brand is not easy. But grab a glass of your fav bubbly and get branding. Because if you brand your whole life you will not only be more prepared for a millennial workforce, but you will live a truly fulfilled life where the possibilities are endless.
We want to hear from you. Be sure to drop us a note below and let us know how you life brand is going.

Why You Need To Embrace Your Hot Mess Days

 

Do you ever feel like you simply can’t adult? You’re just a hot mess. It happens. Life gets to be too much and you’ve simply had enough. You can’t adult. BUT… We all know that life keeps moving and you have to find some way to keep up. Sounds like you need a hot mess day. A day to embrace your hot mess self and recharge your adult battery. It’s so easy and gloriously divine. You might just want to schedule a hot mess day from time to time!

So, you wake up and the day just isn’t jiving with you. So instead of faking the feel goods, you reclaim the day as a Hot Mess Day! Go ahead, hit the snooze button. Allow yourself to cuddle a moment of silence. Take a moment to reflect on what has you all frazzled. Is it the late night work sessions you’ve been pulling for the last week? Maybe it’s your hubs crazy loud snoring. Or maybe you simply need a break. Whatever it is file it away. You have to adult now. Rome wasn’t fixed during the 8 minute snooze allotment. It’s time to keep going.

Peel yourself away from the sheets and get ready to fully embrace the hot mess. Take a shower. You may be having a hot mess day but you’re not nasty. So take care of your personal hygiene… It will make you feel a little better, promise. Now that you’re clean it’s the beautiful moment that you get to put aside that pencil skirt and those stilettos and embrace the comfy look. Wear something that is comfy chic. A pair of leggings with an oversized sweater and some flats is always a good hot mess standby. Make those sparkly flats, by the way, because sparkles will brighten almost any mood! Now time for the face. Keep your makeup simple. A little powder, mascara and some lipstick should do the trick. Even if you don’t normally wear lipstick give it a go. A bright color may be fun and silly enough to cheer up that smile. Your hair… Go for total hot mess pony town. A messy bun or ponytail is quick and easy to fix on the go and will completely fit in with your current feels. It won’t get in the way of all the things you have to do to adult today.

Now that your hot mess look has been embraced, it’s time to plan the day… Or rather un-plan the day. You know that a full day of adulating simply isn’t in the cards. So take a peak at your schedule and your To-Do list… What can you take out? Is there a meeting that can be postponed? What items on The List can be moved to another day? Take all of the noncritical items out of your schedule and off of your To-Do list. The goal is to take pressure off yourself and allow for moments of total hot mess meltdown. Everything may seem super important and critical but remember that is what probably brought you to this hot mess day in the first place. So take the time to really analyze what needs to be done and what can wait.

You’re dressed, your day is un-planned, it’s time to act! First stop, the best coffee shop intown. It’s time for something deliciously devilish. Fuel up with your fav bev and a little treat to fill your belly. Now off to adult. Throughout the day enjoy the moments you hve left clear. Take a catnap, drop in to a yoga class, give yourself a good cry session. In those moments do what feels right. Listen to your body and soul and feed it what it is craving. By doing this you are banishing the bad vibes and creating space for good juju. So really soak up these moments. These are the moments that will help you leave the hot mess day behind and refocus your energy so that you can adult tomorrow.

As you move through your day you may encounter a task that is on your critical list but it is really sucking out your energy. It’s time to reassess. Is this something someone can help you with? Getting help can make the problem less daunting. The creative collaboration may not only help accomplish the task but the social bug might also lift your mood. Maybe it is something that just needs to be set aside for a day when you have more strength and openness to tackle it. There is nothing worse than pushing through something and not giving it your best work. All that will do is create more anxiety and hot mess days because you are’nt satisfied with the work you put out. Protect your brand image and make sure you aren’t so cut off from the hot mess blues that you aren’t damaging your work.

Now that the day is done you are hopefully feeling a bit more like your powerful Boss Babe self. You let the day come and go as it needed to, you didn’t force anything and you opened yourself up to give yourself space for what is yet to come. Awesome job! Time to take a moment to plan some more hot mess days. This time, instead of waiting until you can’t adult another day and you absolutely have to take a hot mess day…. PLAN a hot mess day. Find a day once or twice a month and call them your HOT MESS DAYS. Write it in your planner. Save it in your phone. It is an important day for every K Girl to be her most powerful self. Make it a day to play hookie from life and go out and do all the things that feed your soul. Take a yoga class, eat a really deliciously unhealthy lunch, go to an art gallery. But don’t plan your day. A hot mess day is about listening to your inner and embracing what it needs. So let your soul guide you. You very well might sit on the couch all day and do nothing but eat popcorn, watch reality tv. Don’t forget to hackle the stars and throw popcorn at the tv when the feeling moves you. It is seriously unbelievably cathartic! Just do what feelds right. Be moved by the moment.

Hot mess days are vital to your power. Sometimes you get to plan them and sometimes they just need to happen. Whatever the need for the hot mess day… Take It! It is a sign from yourself that you need a break. Allow yourself to embrace it. There is nothing wrong with being a hot mess. There is divine beauty in a hot mess life. Find the beauty. Embrace the hot mess.

Don’t forget to leave us a comment about your favorite hot mess day. Or leave a nugget of inspiration on what you do to get through those hot mess days.

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Prioritize Pleasure


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I love the #TruthBomb from Danielle LaPorte, “prioritize pleasure.” Amen! Who doesn’t want to put pleasure at the top of their to do list? Um, yes please. What we often forget is that pleasure doesn’t always look the same. Sometimes it is in ordinary tasks, sometimes it is career driven, or maybe it is an activity that you can’t get enough of. This is meant to be something that allows joy and love to spill out of you and seep into every part of your life. So how can we add a little sprinkle of pleasure into every single day?

Figuring out what exactly it is that gives you pleasure and fills your life with abundance can be one of the hardest tasks. Usually it’s just a lot of trial and error. Get out there; open your horizons. Try kayaking, running, yoga, painting, a bubble bath, meditation, improv classes… The list goes on and on. You just have to open up your mind to all the possibilities and find the courage to try it all. Be daring.

There are also those pleasures that require you to really dig down deep and take stock in your life. Ask yourself, are you happy with the significant other you are spending your time with, are you in love with the career path you are on? If the answer is no then it is time to start making a plan to change that. If the answer is yes, you still need to make a plan to cultivate more joy from these parts of your life. Don’t settle for average. The average person will settle for enjoying the career that makes them happy but doesn’t fulfill them. The extraordinary person will always strive to better every aspect of their life. There is never a limit to the amount of pleasure one can take in or give out. Just remember that average and ordinary aren’t the same things. Average is the measurement of your pleasure, but ordinary is the place that your pleasure can live and grow.

How many of y’all have said, “Cleaning house brings me so much joy. It’s just so peaceful.” Said maybe two people ever. But there is some true wisdom in that statement. If you really dig deep down into the heart of “Prioritize Pleasure” you will find the ultimate truth bomb. It isn’t simply making time for the things that you love to take care of your soul… It is also about changing the way you take life in. You know you have to clean the house. Ugh. Let’s change that ugh into a WOOT! All you have to do is make it fun. Find the pleasure inside of the ordinary. Turn on your favorite playlist for the ultimate jam fest. Once you get a room cleaned light candles as a symbolic checkmark that the room is primed to let in love and happiness. Cleaning is just a means to get to a clean slate to let pleasure into your life. And getting to that clean slate is a celebration with music and dancing.

The key to prioritizing pleasure is to keep searching for those pleasures to enhance your life. J. Cole once said, “I always feel like it’s two key ingredients when it comes to following your dreams, making something happen that the average person deems difficult. If you truly believe it, that’s step one. Step two is, you know, the hard work that goes along with it.” Be audacious and bold. Challenge yourself to try new things and disrupt what is mediocre in your life to find the bliss within the ordinary. You are the keeper of your pleasure. Release your joy!

Be sure to leave us a comment about how you are prioritizing pleasure in your life. We can’t wait to hear from y’all!

Making Dreams Come True

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Chasing your dreams is no easy fete. So often we are riddled with fear, doubt, insecurity… Y’all know the list can go on a mile long. So how do we let go of that big, long, scary list and turn our dreams into reality?
Probably the easiest part to chasing our dreams is making them. Letting inspiration flow over you and conjuring up how you want your life or maybe business to look. What you have to do once those inspirational juices start flowing is write it down! Go to the store find your self the cutest (or most badass) notebook you can find, go home, sit down with pen (make it permanent but don’t be afraid to scratch out and scribble more) in hand and write. Get those dreams out of your head and onto a tangible list you can hold and see.
Now it is time to start doing something about those awesome dreams you’ve thought up… Um, yeah, okay. Are you thinking, “Good one. Let me get right on that. After! I do the laundry, feed the kids, wash the dog, go to the store…” Okay, so that list you just created in your head, the one with all the things you need to do before you follow your dreams… Yeah, add that to your list that’s a mile long. Ain’t nobody got time for that list. Not when you’re building your empire of dreams. Instead forget about the list that is a mile long and focus on the list of dreams. Look at it every single day. Maybe add a few more details to that awesome dream of yours.
Now, eventually there will come a time when the stars align and the Universe says, “K Girl, it’s time to jump.” This is the time to take that list that is a mile long, build a giant bomb fire and burn that sucker till it’s crispy little bits of ash. You don’t need that list and you certainly don’t want that list. It’s dream-making time! So, get up and do. No, the DO part of chasing dreams is not easy but it’s what you have to do. You have to look at your book of dreams and DO IT. That is the only way to make them happen. Sorry there isn’t a magic pill to take or enchanted wand to wave. Chasing dreams, especially the big ones, requires action from YOU and no one else.
But guess what, you are an incredibly talented, beautiful K Girl that can 100% do this. We would love to know how this post is helping you chase those dreams or share some tips on how y’all are getting’ it done. Cheers to the chase, y’all!

Define Your Brand & Go Get It!

Define Your Brand & Go Get It!
When you build a personal brand you are fully embracing your genuine self. So why do you keep stuff in your life that contradict the brand of YOU? Sometimes you have to take that leap of faith and chase the dream you want. Even if that means being a little lost and confused along the way. Just remember that you are awesome. So live it!
So, what is a personal brand? A personal brand is you and all of your divine glory. It is your dreams, your inspirations, your goals and your powerful knowledge. It’s YOU! To truly capture the brand you want to put out to the world start with a list. Write it down and define it for yourself. Here is a little sample of what that might look like.
You are the brand. Who are you & what do you want?
You are the brand. Who are you & what do you want?
 
Now that you have a list of what the genuine you looks like it’s time to define that in a deeper way. What do you need to do to embrace this brand? Where do you need to volunteer, work or live? Look at every aspect of your life and figure are if you are living a life that inspires your brand. If it’s not then it is time to make a change.
Now, you have a choice. You can be the cautious brander and slowly make your way to Awesome Town or you can jump feet first and grab the life you want. Either way is perfectly okay. You have to do what is right for you. That is the whole point of building your brand. It’s all about what makes you happy. If you are going to take the little by little approach prioritize your list. Start with what is the most important piece for you. Then put them in order from easiest to hardest. Remember you are prioritizing everything. You have the list of what defines you and your sub lists. Prioritize each of these lists. Got your list? Now start with an easy one and make something happen! Then keep going.
Now, if you are more of a jump feet first kind of gal then do something big and drastic. Throw caution to the wind and take a risk. You may break some rules and jump without knowing where you will land but that is okay. Some of the most beautiful things in life are unplanned. Whatever you decide to do it’s all good as long as it pushes you to be happier and find your inspiration.
It may be cliché to say but life truly is too short to be wasted away. You are a divine women. Your life should match your soul. You got this!

5 Ways to Become the Leader of Your Life

5 Ways to Be a Leader of Your LIFE
The only way to find the life you are meant to live is to take charge and be your own leader.
As we get older we begin to realize that being a follower is not inspiring. Being a follower wont help you live the life you want. Instead you wander through the World living the lives of others. You have to make the choice to find your own life, be a leader of your life and be the person that makes you happy. The best part about taking charge of your desires is that it will bring better and healthier relationships and activities into your life.
So how do you build the life YOU want? How do you stop being a follower and start being YOU?
1. Try everything
The only way to find out what it is that you enjoy is to get out there and try it! Make sure to try a wide array of activities. Try anything from kayaking to knitting, blogging to fishing. You might just surprise yourself and find something you never thought you would enjoy.
2. Make connections
When you jump into fun activities you will automatically meet super interesting people. Say hello, don’t be shy. They may have hobbies that they can introduce you to that you will fall madly in love with!
3. Act the Part
When you get an idea of how you want to live your life get excited. Be happy. If you are happy you will attract more happiness and positive vibes into your life. We always say you are what you eat. Start saying, you are what you do!
4. Inspire others
Volunteer at the local homeless shelter or become a Big Sister. Find ways that you can interact with people who need a bit of a boost in their lives. Making a positive difference in someone’s life is a great way to find you. There are times when we get so downhearted that we need to be a follower to lift us up. Be the leader and help others find their happiness.
5. Journal
Keep a journal of all that you do and the people you meet. The great part about journaling as you find your life is that you can look back and see what you liked and what you didn’t. Maybe you will find that you kind of enjoyed something but maybe need to change it up and simply do something similar but different. The other divine thing about journaling is that it allows you to express your deepest desires, dreams, goals and even fears. Mental healthiness is very important when becoming the leader of your life.
We want to know what you are finding you enjoy. Tell us how you are taking charge and becoming a leader of your life!

Tackle Goal 1

Tackle a goal today and keep moving to a golden life!

Remember those goals you made on day one of your 30 day Southern Gold Challenge? Today is your chance to tackle your first ultimate goal. Can’t remember what your goal was? Go back to the list and pick a new one. Feel accomplished and know that you are on the right track to a happy golden life, one goal at a time.
Day 1 of the Southern Gold Challenge