Hi beautiful friends! Our founder, Kiki, has a little something to share with you as we kick off our new look & vibe.
Well, hello! I wanted to take the opportunity on this first blog of the fabulous new K Girl to share a bit about what has been going on with myself and with K Girl, and why it’s okay. I am sure you have noticed that since K Girl first launched three years ago we have been anything but consistent. Our content was spotty, our brand was mismatched. We have been running a bit chaotically. So I made the choice to take a little, okay maybe a lot, of time off and refocus.
When I started K Girl it was at the end of a serious relationship. It was a time in my life where I began realizing I had lost myself in the relationship and I no longer knew who I was. So I created the K Girl blog as a way not only to find myself but to help other fabulous women find themselves too. Of course, in hindsight it may have been smarter to have found myself first and then shared what I learned with all of you… or was it truly smarter? The chicken or the egg…
Over the past few years I have definitely found myself and also honed in on why I started K Girl and what I want K Girl to look like in the long haul. I found that I love helping people and empowering women, like myself. I also found that my favorite way to do this is through branding. I believe that life branding is one of those life components that often times gets overlooked and underestimated. A life brand is a brilliant, concise way to define who you are and where you are going in life, love and profession. We’ll dive deeper into what a life brand is later down the road.) But like many humans it took me awhile to discover my purpose and define it.
I have had many ideas for K Girl. And I have time and time again announced my new divine plan, and then… faltered. I either never started or my idea and motivation quickly fizzled. Last year as I was preparing for the birth of my first child I had a serious chat with myself (not out loud, don’t worry, I am not nuts). I called myself out. I was being lazy, undirected. I needed a reset. So, I hit the pause button. I spent the past year dreaming up ideas but not dramatically announcing them to the world. Instead I took a more organic approach; I quietly talked about them to close friends and then I did something truly important. I discovered how I work best.
This was important because it was the beginning of curing my lazy-self. I totally stopped what I was doing and put all my focus into figuring out the best method for me to accomplish all I wanted. I also needed to be able to sustain this new form of working. What I found was that I am super focused from about 7am – 11am and that I get creative at about 2am… Yeah, so not sustainable. Going to bed at 3 am and waking up at 6am while being a single mom to a one year old just wasn’t going to work. So, I decided to just be organic with it. Some days I get up at 6 and other days it’s more like 10 when little man wakes up (Yes, I am crazy lucky that my kid goes to bed at 10pm and gets up at 10am). I haven’t yet found a way to honor both of my working times within the same day. I am still, and always will be, a work in progress. But I am focising on me and how I can bring my dreams to fruition, while still honoring all parts of my life.
Sometimes that means you have to put everything on hold and figure shit out. So that sucked for all of you because my little sabbatical meant K Girl was a total inconsistent hot mess. So finally a few months ago I made the choice to totally shut it down. No more blogs, no more social media posts. Nothing. I wanted to be sure I was truly ready for the next phase of my life and K Girl. Now, if K Girl had a larger following and was a bigger operation this would have been a problem. However, K Girl isn’t there yet(but just you wait, boooyyee!). We are still an unknown blog with a handful of incredibly generous followers. So I had the ability to do this. And I am forever grateful to you for allowing me to take that time.
The whole putting your life on hold may seem nuts but it really is freeing. For those of us who seem to be aimlessly wandering through this world, a total reset is exactly what we need. Now, when you do this no apologizing! You are honoring you and your beautiful hustle. Everyone else can deal with it. When you get back to reality you will be a more confident beautiful person. You will be a better person for you AND everyone else. So it’s a win-win!
I get that you may not be able to take a year or two off and find YOU. But you can still be cognizant of the world you live in and discover the life brand that not only defines who you are but that you can exude with joy and confidence. I had to do this while learning to be a new mom too. So it’s not like I was just at home eating bon-bons. If I can do it you can too.
Just remember to be unapologetic, honest and loving to yourself and others during this transition of YOU. At the end of the day you owe it to yourself to dive into you. Figure out your dreams, how you work and what is the best approach to make it all come true… for you.
You got this.
We want to hear from you. Be sure to drop us a note below and let us know how you have and are honoring yourself to find your life brand.
Do you ever feel like you simply can’t adult? You’re just a hot mess. It happens. Life gets to be too much and you’ve simply had enough. You can’t adult. BUT… We all know that life keeps moving and you have to find some way to keep up. Sounds like you need a hot mess day. A day to embrace your hot mess self and recharge your adult battery. It’s so easy and gloriously divine. You might just want to schedule a hot mess day from time to time!
So, you wake up and the day just isn’t jiving with you. So instead of faking the feel goods, you reclaim the day as a Hot Mess Day! Go ahead, hit the snooze button. Allow yourself to cuddle a moment of silence. Take a moment to reflect on what has you all frazzled. Is it the late night work sessions you’ve been pulling for the last week? Maybe it’s your hubs crazy loud snoring. Or maybe you simply need a break. Whatever it is file it away. You have to adult now. Rome wasn’t fixed during the 8 minute snooze allotment. It’s time to keep going.
Peel yourself away from the sheets and get ready to fully embrace the hot mess. Take a shower. You may be having a hot mess day but you’re not nasty. So take care of your personal hygiene… It will make you feel a little better, promise. Now that you’re clean it’s the beautiful moment that you get to put aside that pencil skirt and those stilettos and embrace the comfy look. Wear something that is comfy chic. A pair of leggings with an oversized sweater and some flats is always a good hot mess standby. Make those sparkly flats, by the way, because sparkles will brighten almost any mood! Now time for the face. Keep your makeup simple. A little powder, mascara and some lipstick should do the trick. Even if you don’t normally wear lipstick give it a go. A bright color may be fun and silly enough to cheer up that smile. Your hair… Go for total hot mess pony town. A messy bun or ponytail is quick and easy to fix on the go and will completely fit in with your current feels. It won’t get in the way of all the things you have to do to adult today.
Now that your hot mess look has been embraced, it’s time to plan the day… Or rather un-plan the day. You know that a full day of adulating simply isn’t in the cards. So take a peak at your schedule and your To-Do list… What can you take out? Is there a meeting that can be postponed? What items on The List can be moved to another day? Take all of the noncritical items out of your schedule and off of your To-Do list. The goal is to take pressure off yourself and allow for moments of total hot mess meltdown. Everything may seem super important and critical but remember that is what probably brought you to this hot mess day in the first place. So take the time to really analyze what needs to be done and what can wait.
You’re dressed, your day is un-planned, it’s time to act! First stop, the best coffee shop intown. It’s time for something deliciously devilish. Fuel up with your fav bev and a little treat to fill your belly. Now off to adult. Throughout the day enjoy the moments you hve left clear. Take a catnap, drop in to a yoga class, give yourself a good cry session. In those moments do what feels right. Listen to your body and soul and feed it what it is craving. By doing this you are banishing the bad vibes and creating space for good juju. So really soak up these moments. These are the moments that will help you leave the hot mess day behind and refocus your energy so that you can adult tomorrow.
As you move through your day you may encounter a task that is on your critical list but it is really sucking out your energy. It’s time to reassess. Is this something someone can help you with? Getting help can make the problem less daunting. The creative collaboration may not only help accomplish the task but the social bug might also lift your mood. Maybe it is something that just needs to be set aside for a day when you have more strength and openness to tackle it. There is nothing worse than pushing through something and not giving it your best work. All that will do is create more anxiety and hot mess days because you are’nt satisfied with the work you put out. Protect your brand image and make sure you aren’t so cut off from the hot mess blues that you aren’t damaging your work.
Now that the day is done you are hopefully feeling a bit more like your powerful Boss Babe self. You let the day come and go as it needed to, you didn’t force anything and you opened yourself up to give yourself space for what is yet to come. Awesome job! Time to take a moment to plan some more hot mess days. This time, instead of waiting until you can’t adult another day and you absolutely have to take a hot mess day…. PLAN a hot mess day. Find a day once or twice a month and call them your HOT MESS DAYS. Write it in your planner. Save it in your phone. It is an important day for every K Girl to be her most powerful self. Make it a day to play hookie from life and go out and do all the things that feed your soul. Take a yoga class, eat a really deliciously unhealthy lunch, go to an art gallery. But don’t plan your day. A hot mess day is about listening to your inner and embracing what it needs. So let your soul guide you. You very well might sit on the couch all day and do nothing but eat popcorn, watch reality tv. Don’t forget to hackle the stars and throw popcorn at the tv when the feeling moves you. It is seriously unbelievably cathartic! Just do what feelds right. Be moved by the moment.
Hot mess days are vital to your power. Sometimes you get to plan them and sometimes they just need to happen. Whatever the need for the hot mess day… Take It! It is a sign from yourself that you need a break. Allow yourself to embrace it. There is nothing wrong with being a hot mess. There is divine beauty in a hot mess life. Find the beauty. Embrace the hot mess.
Don’t forget to leave us a comment about your favorite hot mess day. Or leave a nugget of inspiration on what you do to get through those hot mess days.
So you own a business. You want your clients to invest in your company, your BRAND. How do you let your clients know just how important they are to you? BE YOU! Sprinkle some extra love onto your clients by being yourself. How would you treat your best friend or family? Your clients are no different. Think of your brand as a community of really close friends. Here are 5 tips to really get the brand love train rolling!
Send handwritten notes
Today, in business, almost everyone has taken up the art of a handwritten Thank You. But how many make a lasting impression with a note from the heart simply to check in? Your clients want to know you care. They want to feel special. So send them notes simply to say ‘Hi.’ Let them know just how important they are to you and your business. After all, they are the reason you are in business.
Greet your clients with a hug
Okay, maybe this one is a bit hippie dippy BUT there aren’t too many people who don’t love or need a good hug. This is especially important if they are having a rough day. Not only will you boost their spirits, you will set the stage for the meeting. Plus, again, they will feel special. They will feel like part of your business family. So greet them with a warm hug. And when the meeting is over hug them again. Research has shown that a proper hug builds trust. Let this kind gesture be the last piece of your brand they remember.
Give them Swag
Who seriously doesn’t want to feel like a rock star? At each meeting give them a little token to take with them. At the first meeting it’s always good to give them a pen and paper and a folder packed with info about your business. Don’t forget to throw in something fun… Maybe a tote to carry their loot! Then at each meeting thereafter find something new. Keep track of what you give them so you don’t repeat the gifts; an ornament with your logo at Christmas, a water bottle during the summer. Keep it simple, keep it relevant and keep it promotional.
Send love through Referrals
People love to be bragged on. So talk up your clients. Let them know how awesome they are by sending customers their way. Now, know your clients! Some clients might prefer your relationship be left confidential. So know your business and know your clients.
Remember important dates
Know your clients like you know you or your business. Remember birthdays (of clients and businesses), launch dates, press releases… ANYTHING that they may be excited about. If a client or owner is under the weather send flowers and a card. Whatever the occasion, send a handwritten note or a gift. Whatever your heart and budget allow. A personal phone call is also a huge way to let them know that they are so important to you that you took time out of your day for them.
Hope these tips help y’all spread some love from the heart of your brand. Give these a try and let us know how it goes! We’d also love to hear what special things y’all do to let your clients know they’re important to you.
I love the #TruthBomb from Danielle LaPorte, “prioritize pleasure.” Amen! Who doesn’t want to put pleasure at the top of their to do list? Um, yes please. What we often forget is that pleasure doesn’t always look the same. Sometimes it is in ordinary tasks, sometimes it is career driven, or maybe it is an activity that you can’t get enough of. This is meant to be something that allows joy and love to spill out of you and seep into every part of your life. So how can we add a little sprinkle of pleasure into every single day?
Figuring out what exactly it is that gives you pleasure and fills your life with abundance can be one of the hardest tasks. Usually it’s just a lot of trial and error. Get out there; open your horizons. Try kayaking, running, yoga, painting, a bubble bath, meditation, improv classes… The list goes on and on. You just have to open up your mind to all the possibilities and find the courage to try it all. Be daring.
There are also those pleasures that require you to really dig down deep and take stock in your life. Ask yourself, are you happy with the significant other you are spending your time with, are you in love with the career path you are on? If the answer is no then it is time to start making a plan to change that. If the answer is yes, you still need to make a plan to cultivate more joy from these parts of your life. Don’t settle for average. The average person will settle for enjoying the career that makes them happy but doesn’t fulfill them. The extraordinary person will always strive to better every aspect of their life. There is never a limit to the amount of pleasure one can take in or give out. Just remember that average and ordinary aren’t the same things. Average is the measurement of your pleasure, but ordinary is the place that your pleasure can live and grow.
How many of y’all have said, “Cleaning house brings me so much joy. It’s just so peaceful.” Said maybe two people ever. But there is some true wisdom in that statement. If you really dig deep down into the heart of “Prioritize Pleasure” you will find the ultimate truth bomb. It isn’t simply making time for the things that you love to take care of your soul… It is also about changing the way you take life in. You know you have to clean the house. Ugh. Let’s change that ugh into a WOOT! All you have to do is make it fun. Find the pleasure inside of the ordinary. Turn on your favorite playlist for the ultimate jam fest. Once you get a room cleaned light candles as a symbolic checkmark that the room is primed to let in love and happiness. Cleaning is just a means to get to a clean slate to let pleasure into your life. And getting to that clean slate is a celebration with music and dancing.
The key to prioritizing pleasure is to keep searching for those pleasures to enhance your life. J. Cole once said, “I always feel like it’s two key ingredients when it comes to following your dreams, making something happen that the average person deems difficult. If you truly believe it, that’s step one. Step two is, you know, the hard work that goes along with it.” Be audacious and bold. Challenge yourself to try new things and disrupt what is mediocre in your life to find the bliss within the ordinary. You are the keeper of your pleasure. Release your joy!
Be sure to leave us a comment about how you are prioritizing pleasure in your life. We can’t wait to hear from y’all!
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