If you are a blogger (or any kind of creative go getter) there is one thing that can suck you in and really muck up your life… The Blogger Wormhole. Yup, it is this creepy black hole of endless thinking. As a blogger, you are constantly racking your brain and your life experiences to find content that your readers can relate to. Which is exactly what you should be doing…. ish.
See, there is a fine line between helpful analysis of your life and thoughts to be used on your blog…aaaannnndd… then there’s the Blogger Wormhole. The Blogger Wormhole is when your useful creative juices get all mushy and gooey and become this mess of overthinking the choices and experiences you’ve had in your life. You begin to get stuck in the Why Me and the What if I would have thinking modes. You know, the crap that leaves you laying on the couch in your pjs with a bowl of ice cream in your lap and cheese puffs in your hair, while a sappy rom-com plays in the background. Yeah, welcome to the Blogger Wormhole. While you are in the creepy darkness of the wormhole you find yourself crying over “spilled milk” from your endless thoughts of a life past and a future that might be a touch scary. You’re in it. You’re in deep.
There is hope, friend. You can get your ass out of that hole and keep yourself out. Would you like to know how? STOP OVERTHINKING! Keep your thinking cap on just long enough to grab the general concept you need for your post. Once you have that beginning nugget of an idea… turn it on your readers. Start coming up with similar examples that they may have gone through. Then go back into the hole, just for a minute, to see what you learned from your experience. Then GET THE HECK OUT OF THERE! Don’t waste time analyzing if what you did was the best thing or not. Move on. Get your snippet and fill in the rest of your blog post with ideas that might help your followers with their specific problem-o.
Creating content with this process is great because now your blog wont just be me Me ME. You will be more relatable and more helpful. Your readers will be all, Whoa! That was freakin’ awesome! It’s like she’s my bestie and I told her my secrets. How did she know that?! Don’t you want to be your followers’ bestie?! Duh. Just remember you aren’t a good bestie if you are stuck in the depressing, nasty, dark Blogger Wormhole. So dip your toe in but don’t take the plunge headfirst.
8 graham crackers, crushed
1 cup unsalted butter, melted
4 dark chocolate pudding cups
1 cup dark chocolate chips
1 cup almond slices, toasted (optional)
Preheat oven to 325°
Combine crushed graham crackers and melted butter in a medium mixing bowl. Divide cracker mixture evenly between 4 small ramekins. Press mixture into bottom of each ramekin to form a crust. Spoon 1 pudding cup into each ramekin. Spread evenly over crust. Sprinkle ¼ cup of chocolate chips into each ramekin. Place ramekins in oven. Bake for 10 minutes, until chocolate is melted. Remove ramekins. Heat oven to 500° (broil) (Optional: top with toasted almond slices) In a single layer top each dish with marshmallows. Place ramekins bake in oven, on top rack. Broil for 1 minute or until marshmallows or until golden brown. Serve with fresh strawberries (optional).
With a few more weeks of summer left, it’s time to make the most of the warm sunshine. We’ve got some fabulous summer fundays to make these last weeks extraordinarily memorable.
Cape Cod Bike Ride & Picnic
You don’t have to live at the Cape to enjoy the iconic summer vibe. Find yourself the cutest picnic basket and fill it with all of your favorite goodies. Don’t forget a cute vase to add some flare to you picnic with some fresh picked flowers from your picnic extravaganza. When you basket is packed strap it onto your cruiser and head to the park or near by lake.
Backyard Camping Trip
Sure, you could have a simple backyard camping night, weekend, whatever… BUT why not take it up a notch. Invite your girlfriends, your lucky fella or enjoy the time alone. Set up your tent, add a movie projector, hotdog and s’mores bar… And you’ve got yourself a night of fancy backyard camping.
Polaroid Picture Adventure
There is just something beautifully nostalgic about a polaroid picture. Snag yourself a camera on Amazon and hit the road. Spend the day searching for the perfect summer inspired pictures.
Basic Girl Day
We all love the best of the Basic Girl trends. Why not make a silly day out of doing all the “Basic” things of life. Start your day with some avocado toast and a delicious cup of coffee. Get yourself gorgeous and have a Snapchat selfie sesh. Then you absolutely have to spend the afternoon floating in the pool on a fabulously extra large pink swan. Top the night off with some sushi and a rom-com… don’t forget the rosé!
Get Your Park On
When was the last time someone went parking on a date? Find a secluded spot with a beautiful view and park your car. Hop in the backseat and enjoy a steamy makeout sesh. Enjoy the romantic throwback!
Swing and Read
Grab your summer read and curl up in a hammock. Make sure to grab a light cozy blanket, a crisp glass of wine and a soft pillow. Maybe a few snack too! If you’re looking for the right boo head over to the K Girl Book Klub and grab your copy of our monthly read (don’t forget to signup so you get a new fab book each month).
Find the Perfect Home
Even if you aren’t in the market for a new home, spend the day house hunting. Hit up all the open houses you can find. Be sure to bring a camera and pen and paper. You never know what clever ideas you might see.
Be a Tourist
Get to know your town. Take the day hitting up all the local hotspots and tourist attractions.
Watch a Sunrise
We always catch a beautiful sunset. But how often do we catch a beautiful sunrise? Make yourself some coffee or tea and find a comfy spot to watch the sunrise. Really take in this beautiful moment and let it energize your day.
Throw a Birthday Bash
Who cares if your birthday is in December? Throw yourself a ½ birthday party full of summer fun from when you were a kid. Set up a water sprinkler and maybe a slip n’ slide. Top it all off is a full on sundae bar. Let out your inner child and get wild! Feel free to add an adult flare with some Jell-O shots and you fav drinking game. Just be sure everyone has responsible fun!
With all these great ideas, you are sure to end summer on with a bang. Life is about having fun; whatever you do make sure you are having fun. Get out and experience this beautiful time of year!
Let us know how you enjoyed your summer fundays. Leave a comment below!
1, 2, 3… Boom. Welcome to adulting. You now have responsibilities, commitments, deadlines and way too much other crap going on. No wonder you’re such a bore! STOOOP! Pump the breaks. Rewind. You, love, are anything but a bore. But maybe, just maybe, you are acting a touch boring… Don’t shoot the messenger.
Look, it happens to the best of us. As we get older more and more crap piles on top of our plates and we keep thinking, If I can just keep my head down a bit longer I can make it out. Only problem is that the light at the end never gets any closer. It keeps getting farther and farther away. WTF!
But guess what, you have the power to make that light shine it’s light on your beautiful face. Beam me up, Scotty, I want a taste of that! That’s what you’re thinking, right? You can admit it. We feel ya.
The secret you ask for is within you and it is super easy to find. All you have to do is STOP. Each day find a moment or several moments to stop and do something unexpected. If your creative juices are clogged by dull adulthood, stop and dance. Break out your most titillating music and bust a move. Have a solo dance party or to really stop the boring you, drag a few friends onto your impromptu dance floor. Not only will you be the life of the dance party, the physical movement will send your juice flowing right.
Perhaps you’re in a poopoo adult funk and seem to be sucking the life out of everything. But wait; is that a sweet child selling cookies? Sure, you could be a bore and say you can’t buy any because it’s swimsuit season and Lord knows you don’t need another calorie… OR you could buy some delicious sweets and chat with the gang of cookie monsters Find out why they’re selling cookies. Kids are always full of hilarious honesty and cheerful giggles. It is hard to be an uptight bore when they are telling you about the adventures their gang encounters. Let the conversation inspire you to enjoy the rest of your day with a smile. Maybe you will allow yourself to find your own little adventure.
Whatever you do to lift the boring fog, the number one way to live a life that is chalk full of fun vibes is to start living! Stop saying you can’t go to the next Harry Styles concert because you’re too old to have a mad crush on the ex-1D stud… Start opening your iPhone to Ticket Master and hit the buy button. Why miss out on something that could be spectacular because you’re too “adult”? A major adulting sinkhole is this idea that growing up means that you now have to conform to social rules. Be funky. Be wacky. Be YOU. No one is going to look back on your life and say how wonderful you were at doing your laundry or marvel about how punctual you were to work. Now, don’t go skipping out on work, you totally need that job to support your new love of adventure. Work to live; don’t live to work. The point is that you only have one shot at this life so do what brings you joy, and when you do that you will no longer be a bore you will be the coolest adult in town.
Whatever your funk may be, it is up to you to get out of it. Sure, you could be the ol’ stick in the mud or you could be the YOLO hustler. It’s up to you. How do you want to live your life?
We want to hear from YOU. What keeps you young at heart? Please share in the comments below. Until next time, mwah!
2 tbls. olive oil
3 Shallots, sliced
6 garlic cloves, minced
1/4 tsp. red pepper flakes
3/4 cup semi-sweet white wine
4 fresh basil leaves, chopped
2 fresh oregano sprigs, chopped
2lbs. shrimp, peeled and deveined
4 small kumasi tomatoes, 1 inch cubed
1 8oz. package pappardelle
1 bunch of fresh parsley, chopped (garnish)
Heat large saucepan over medium-high heat. Add olive oil. When oil is hot add shallots and garlic. Cook until translucent. Add red pepper flakes, wine, 1/2 basil and 1/2 oregano. Stir bringing to a boil. Add shrimp, cover until almost cooked, about 3 to 4 minutes. Toss in remaining herbs and tomatoes. Cook pasta according to directions. Pour shrimp and sauce over pasta, sprinkle fresh parsley and serve warm.
Personal branding seems to be a major buzzword at the moment. Everyone is climbing on the personal branding wagon in hopes of claiming instant success. With all these hustlers building inspiring careers it’s easy to get excited and a bit overwhelmed. But there is no reason to be overwhelmed. You are reading this blog so you totally have what it takes to pull it off! So how do you get started, right?! Bet you’re asking yourself, What the heck is a personal brand? Do I need one? And a million other questions are probably running through that head of yours. Honestly, the question you should be asking is, Am I ready to brand my life? But let’s go ahead and walkthrough your questions, shall we…
In 1997 Tom Peters wrote an article for Fast Company where he talked about “The Brand Called You” This was the birth of the personal brand. The entire concept of a personal brand was, and is, to get individuals, YOU, to build a brand that allows them to stand out in a room of cubicles. So, the idea of a personal brand is really simple. Build a brand the same way a company like Apple or Nike would, but this brand isn’t for a company. It’s for your career. In another article for Fast Company, Barry S. Saltzman writes, “It provides a clear focus for personal development while establishing yourself as a thought leader.” You’re building a reputation as a leader or influencer for your niche industry. So by this definition, if you are looking to further your career, land a better job, build a business or really do anything in the “career” sphere, you need a personal brand.
Peters wrote, “Regardless of age, regardless of position, regardless of the business we happen to be in, all of us need to understand the importance of branding. We are CEOs of our own companies: Me Inc.” So it is pretty safe to say that if you are reading this, you need and should have a personal brand. But here’s the thing… Today, we live in the era of the Millennial. Millennials want a connection, honesty and authenticity. They want more than a personal brand showing them how awesome you are at your job. They want to really get to know you. To understand why you are so brilliant. They also want the good stuff and the bad. They want it all. They want the WHOLE picture. This is where that question of Am I ready to brand my life? comes in.
Say hello to the new face of personal branding, Life Branding. Life branding is just like a personal brand. You are branding ME Inc. BUT instead of simply branding your professional image you are branding the whole shebang. You are branding your career, your relationships, your style, your health, your home. EVERYTHING! In 2008 Merrill Lynch estimated that in 2020 about 46% of the workforce will consist of Millennials. So it is safe to say that whatever age group you are, you will be working with or for one. Or Are One!
So it is time we start thinking about what that means for the current mainstream idea of a personal brand. We have to be more open and authentic to who we are and what our values are. Companies are getting to a point where they care less about what a piece of paper says about your job history and more about who you are as a person. They want to be sure that your values match their values and ideals.
Just look at what companies are doing today. They are taking down store walls, so to speak, and giving you an inside look into the life and heart of the company. They are showing it all. The processes they use, what their HQ looks like, inside looks into their employees. Anymore, you really have an incredible opportunity to dig into a company brand and get connected. So why aren’t we doing more of that? It is really jiving for the big companies like 86 Lumber or Facebook.
So to grab that instant success you have to start thinking outside the box of personal branding. Expand your limits and brand your entire life. Start by creating a brand strategy. Really dig deep into what is most important to you and how you live your life, now and in the future. We will really dive into creating a brand strategy later on but basically you need to create a guide book of how the brand of YOU is going to look and feel. Really think about how you want others to see you as a human and as a professional. Just be sure you are staying true to YOU. No one likes a phony. The process to building your brand is not easy. But grab a glass of your fav bubbly and get branding. Because if you brand your whole life you will not only be more prepared for a millennial workforce, but you will live a truly fulfilled life where the possibilities are endless.
We want to hear from you. Be sure to drop us a note below and let us know how you life brand is going.
Hi beautiful friends! Our founder, Kiki, has a little something to share with you as we kick off our new look & vibe.
Well, hello! I wanted to take the opportunity on this first blog of the fabulous new K Girl to share a bit about what has been going on with myself and with K Girl, and why it’s okay. I am sure you have noticed that since K Girl first launched three years ago we have been anything but consistent. Our content was spotty, our brand was mismatched. We have been running a bit chaotically. So I made the choice to take a little, okay maybe a lot, of time off and refocus.
When I started K Girl it was at the end of a serious relationship. It was a time in my life where I began realizing I had lost myself in the relationship and I no longer knew who I was. So I created the K Girl blog as a way not only to find myself but to help other fabulous women find themselves too. Of course, in hindsight it may have been smarter to have found myself first and then shared what I learned with all of you… or was it truly smarter? The chicken or the egg…
Over the past few years I have definitely found myself and also honed in on why I started K Girl and what I want K Girl to look like in the long haul. I found that I love helping people and empowering women, like myself. I also found that my favorite way to do this is through branding. I believe that life branding is one of those life components that often times gets overlooked and underestimated. A life brand is a brilliant, concise way to define who you are and where you are going in life, love and profession. We’ll dive deeper into what a life brand is later down the road.) But like many humans it took me awhile to discover my purpose and define it.
I have had many ideas for K Girl. And I have time and time again announced my new divine plan, and then… faltered. I either never started or my idea and motivation quickly fizzled. Last year as I was preparing for the birth of my first child I had a serious chat with myself (not out loud, don’t worry, I am not nuts). I called myself out. I was being lazy, undirected. I needed a reset. So, I hit the pause button. I spent the past year dreaming up ideas but not dramatically announcing them to the world. Instead I took a more organic approach; I quietly talked about them to close friends and then I did something truly important. I discovered how I work best.
This was important because it was the beginning of curing my lazy-self. I totally stopped what I was doing and put all my focus into figuring out the best method for me to accomplish all I wanted. I also needed to be able to sustain this new form of working. What I found was that I am super focused from about 7am – 11am and that I get creative at about 2am… Yeah, so not sustainable. Going to bed at 3 am and waking up at 6am while being a single mom to a one year old just wasn’t going to work. So, I decided to just be organic with it. Some days I get up at 6 and other days it’s more like 10 when little man wakes up (Yes, I am crazy lucky that my kid goes to bed at 10pm and gets up at 10am). I haven’t yet found a way to honor both of my working times within the same day. I am still, and always will be, a work in progress. But I am focising on me and how I can bring my dreams to fruition, while still honoring all parts of my life.
Sometimes that means you have to put everything on hold and figure shit out. So that sucked for all of you because my little sabbatical meant K Girl was a total inconsistent hot mess. So finally a few months ago I made the choice to totally shut it down. No more blogs, no more social media posts. Nothing. I wanted to be sure I was truly ready for the next phase of my life and K Girl. Now, if K Girl had a larger following and was a bigger operation this would have been a problem. However, K Girl isn’t there yet(but just you wait, boooyyee!). We are still an unknown blog with a handful of incredibly generous followers. So I had the ability to do this. And I am forever grateful to you for allowing me to take that time.
The whole putting your life on hold may seem nuts but it really is freeing. For those of us who seem to be aimlessly wandering through this world, a total reset is exactly what we need. Now, when you do this no apologizing! You are honoring you and your beautiful hustle. Everyone else can deal with it. When you get back to reality you will be a more confident beautiful person. You will be a better person for you AND everyone else. So it’s a win-win!
I get that you may not be able to take a year or two off and find YOU. But you can still be cognizant of the world you live in and discover the life brand that not only defines who you are but that you can exude with joy and confidence. I had to do this while learning to be a new mom too. So it’s not like I was just at home eating bon-bons. If I can do it you can too.
Just remember to be unapologetic, honest and loving to yourself and others during this transition of YOU. At the end of the day you owe it to yourself to dive into you. Figure out your dreams, how you work and what is the best approach to make it all come true… for you.
You got this.
We want to hear from you. Be sure to drop us a note below and let us know how you have and are honoring yourself to find your life brand.
Do you ever feel like you simply can’t adult? You’re just a hot mess. It happens. Life gets to be too much and you’ve simply had enough. You can’t adult. BUT… We all know that life keeps moving and you have to find some way to keep up. Sounds like you need a hot mess day. A day to embrace your hot mess self and recharge your adult battery. It’s so easy and gloriously divine. You might just want to schedule a hot mess day from time to time!
So, you wake up and the day just isn’t jiving with you. So instead of faking the feel goods, you reclaim the day as a Hot Mess Day! Go ahead, hit the snooze button. Allow yourself to cuddle a moment of silence. Take a moment to reflect on what has you all frazzled. Is it the late night work sessions you’ve been pulling for the last week? Maybe it’s your hubs crazy loud snoring. Or maybe you simply need a break. Whatever it is file it away. You have to adult now. Rome wasn’t fixed during the 8 minute snooze allotment. It’s time to keep going.
Peel yourself away from the sheets and get ready to fully embrace the hot mess. Take a shower. You may be having a hot mess day but you’re not nasty. So take care of your personal hygiene… It will make you feel a little better, promise. Now that you’re clean it’s the beautiful moment that you get to put aside that pencil skirt and those stilettos and embrace the comfy look. Wear something that is comfy chic. A pair of leggings with an oversized sweater and some flats is always a good hot mess standby. Make those sparkly flats, by the way, because sparkles will brighten almost any mood! Now time for the face. Keep your makeup simple. A little powder, mascara and some lipstick should do the trick. Even if you don’t normally wear lipstick give it a go. A bright color may be fun and silly enough to cheer up that smile. Your hair… Go for total hot mess pony town. A messy bun or ponytail is quick and easy to fix on the go and will completely fit in with your current feels. It won’t get in the way of all the things you have to do to adult today.
Now that your hot mess look has been embraced, it’s time to plan the day… Or rather un-plan the day. You know that a full day of adulating simply isn’t in the cards. So take a peak at your schedule and your To-Do list… What can you take out? Is there a meeting that can be postponed? What items on The List can be moved to another day? Take all of the noncritical items out of your schedule and off of your To-Do list. The goal is to take pressure off yourself and allow for moments of total hot mess meltdown. Everything may seem super important and critical but remember that is what probably brought you to this hot mess day in the first place. So take the time to really analyze what needs to be done and what can wait.
You’re dressed, your day is un-planned, it’s time to act! First stop, the best coffee shop intown. It’s time for something deliciously devilish. Fuel up with your fav bev and a little treat to fill your belly. Now off to adult. Throughout the day enjoy the moments you hve left clear. Take a catnap, drop in to a yoga class, give yourself a good cry session. In those moments do what feels right. Listen to your body and soul and feed it what it is craving. By doing this you are banishing the bad vibes and creating space for good juju. So really soak up these moments. These are the moments that will help you leave the hot mess day behind and refocus your energy so that you can adult tomorrow.
As you move through your day you may encounter a task that is on your critical list but it is really sucking out your energy. It’s time to reassess. Is this something someone can help you with? Getting help can make the problem less daunting. The creative collaboration may not only help accomplish the task but the social bug might also lift your mood. Maybe it is something that just needs to be set aside for a day when you have more strength and openness to tackle it. There is nothing worse than pushing through something and not giving it your best work. All that will do is create more anxiety and hot mess days because you are’nt satisfied with the work you put out. Protect your brand image and make sure you aren’t so cut off from the hot mess blues that you aren’t damaging your work.
Now that the day is done you are hopefully feeling a bit more like your powerful Boss Babe self. You let the day come and go as it needed to, you didn’t force anything and you opened yourself up to give yourself space for what is yet to come. Awesome job! Time to take a moment to plan some more hot mess days. This time, instead of waiting until you can’t adult another day and you absolutely have to take a hot mess day…. PLAN a hot mess day. Find a day once or twice a month and call them your HOT MESS DAYS. Write it in your planner. Save it in your phone. It is an important day for every K Girl to be her most powerful self. Make it a day to play hookie from life and go out and do all the things that feed your soul. Take a yoga class, eat a really deliciously unhealthy lunch, go to an art gallery. But don’t plan your day. A hot mess day is about listening to your inner and embracing what it needs. So let your soul guide you. You very well might sit on the couch all day and do nothing but eat popcorn, watch reality tv. Don’t forget to hackle the stars and throw popcorn at the tv when the feeling moves you. It is seriously unbelievably cathartic! Just do what feelds right. Be moved by the moment.
Hot mess days are vital to your power. Sometimes you get to plan them and sometimes they just need to happen. Whatever the need for the hot mess day… Take It! It is a sign from yourself that you need a break. Allow yourself to embrace it. There is nothing wrong with being a hot mess. There is divine beauty in a hot mess life. Find the beauty. Embrace the hot mess.
Don’t forget to leave us a comment about your favorite hot mess day. Or leave a nugget of inspiration on what you do to get through those hot mess days.
So you own a business. You want your clients to invest in your company, your BRAND. How do you let your clients know just how important they are to you? BE YOU! Sprinkle some extra love onto your clients by being yourself. How would you treat your best friend or family? Your clients are no different. Think of your brand as a community of really close friends. Here are 5 tips to really get the brand love train rolling!
Send handwritten notes
Today, in business, almost everyone has taken up the art of a handwritten Thank You. But how many make a lasting impression with a note from the heart simply to check in? Your clients want to know you care. They want to feel special. So send them notes simply to say ‘Hi.’ Let them know just how important they are to you and your business. After all, they are the reason you are in business.
Greet your clients with a hug
Okay, maybe this one is a bit hippie dippy BUT there aren’t too many people who don’t love or need a good hug. This is especially important if they are having a rough day. Not only will you boost their spirits, you will set the stage for the meeting. Plus, again, they will feel special. They will feel like part of your business family. So greet them with a warm hug. And when the meeting is over hug them again. Research has shown that a proper hug builds trust. Let this kind gesture be the last piece of your brand they remember.
Give them Swag
Who seriously doesn’t want to feel like a rock star? At each meeting give them a little token to take with them. At the first meeting it’s always good to give them a pen and paper and a folder packed with info about your business. Don’t forget to throw in something fun… Maybe a tote to carry their loot! Then at each meeting thereafter find something new. Keep track of what you give them so you don’t repeat the gifts; an ornament with your logo at Christmas, a water bottle during the summer. Keep it simple, keep it relevant and keep it promotional.
Send love through Referrals
People love to be bragged on. So talk up your clients. Let them know how awesome they are by sending customers their way. Now, know your clients! Some clients might prefer your relationship be left confidential. So know your business and know your clients.
Remember important dates
Know your clients like you know you or your business. Remember birthdays (of clients and businesses), launch dates, press releases… ANYTHING that they may be excited about. If a client or owner is under the weather send flowers and a card. Whatever the occasion, send a handwritten note or a gift. Whatever your heart and budget allow. A personal phone call is also a huge way to let them know that they are so important to you that you took time out of your day for them.
Hope these tips help y’all spread some love from the heart of your brand. Give these a try and let us know how it goes! We’d also love to hear what special things y’all do to let your clients know they’re important to you.